Today I will put closure to the pain of my past by being aware of how blessed I am today.

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 People who never make peace with their past never find the grace to move successfully into their future.  If you want to change your life for the better, you must settle this fact in your mind, once and for all: it’s all about the now!  Begin to see yourself as a person who has the ability to let things go and to move on.  See yourself as someone who has the maturity to forgive, the perception to rightly discern what has happened to you in the past, and the vision to embrace the future.  See yourself as one who can look back over the course of events of his/her life – both the good and the bad ones – and not want to change anything.  See yourself thankful for your life.


Remember, it’s not what has happened to you, but what has happened in you, that has shaped you into the person that you now are.  You may have been victimized, but you don’t have to be a victim – or at least you don’t have to live like one.  You may have been betrayed, but you don’t have to be bitter.  Betrayal is what someone did to you.  Bitterness is what you do to yourself.  You may be alone, but you don’t have to be lonely.  Your vision determines the effect of your circumstances on your life.  One thing is for sure, you really can put closure on any pain from your past by seeing how blessed you are now.  Whatever may have happened didn’t kill you – you’re still here, so you might as well live!


Counting your blessings is truly an exercise in empowerment.  You should make a mental list every day of the things for which you are grateful and review that list when you are tempted to start seeing things in a negative light.  Self-pity is a useless emotion.  It doesn’t make you feel better about yourself, it doesn’t make someone else see the error of their ways, it doesn’t change anything, and it doesn’t glorify God.  Feeling sorry for yourself, even if you have good reason to do so, is utterly pointless.  Nothing good or important or constructive ever comes from it.  Giving in to it just causes you to spin your wheels on the road of life.

If you are nursing old wounds from the past that should have healed years ago, it’s time to move on.  Some things may leave a scar, but they don’t have to stay infected.  They don’t have to hurt anymore if you don’t want them to.  You can stop talking about the pain and can begin to see the good and positive.  You can embrace the strength and wisdom that you have acquired and can even help someone else through their healing process.  The more thankful you become, the more you will have for which to be thankful and the less you will want to concentrate on past hurts.  You can change your focus.  You can change your life by changing the way you see things.

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Keep Looking Up! (from 20/20 VISION by Bishop Jim Swilley)

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Even if I am the only optimistic person

that I know, I will not compromise

my optimism today.



Optimism as a characteristic is the inclination to hopefulness and confidence.  The individual who exhibits this characteristic is usually someone who was raised in a very secure home environment, surrounded by nurturing and supportive people.  Optimism as a philosophy is the theory that good must ultimately prevail over evil.  The person who subscribes to this philosophy is typically someone who has had a sufficient amount of positive reinforcement to shape within them a particular world view.  But optimism as a lifestyle is something that can be learned, cultivated and perfected in those who are willing to exercise their unique, visionary ability, regardless of how they were raised or what they have experienced.


Optimism is not naïveté.  Those who are naïve are that way simply because they lack the necessary sophistication or required worldliness to utilize any critical ability or analytical insight.  You can, without a doubt, be totally optimistic about life without ever being naïve to the harsh realities of the world around you.  Optimism is not denial, either.  Those who are in denial refuse to acknowledge certain irrefutable truths and are either so out of touch that they can’t see reality or are so fearful of the reality they see that they just ignore it altogether.  When you are fully optimistic, your perception of reality will change but you will still be able to exist and function in the real world.


But remember that you live in an age when it can seem that the majority of people in the world are absolutely prone to be negative and pessimistic.  In some circles today, optimism is considered to be a sign of insensitivity to the plight of oppressed people or an indication of political incorrectness.  Certain intellectuals regard optimism as evidence of limited intelligence, while others think that it is corny or a sign of immaturity.  But the root of the word itself is connected with sight and vision, as is indicated by other similar words such as optical or optometrist.  Optimists are just people who have tapped into the power of positive perception and have chosen to make it work for them.


The point is that you have to maintain your good vision and perception regardless of what anyone else says or thinks of you, even if you are the only optimist that you know!  The world is never going to be perfect, but one thing is for sure – being optimistic will get you a lot closer to perfection in your world than being pessimistic ever can or will, so you must never compromise your optimism.  Continue to believe in and embrace the good, and good will come to you.  “Optimists enrich the present, enhance the future, challenge the improbable and attain the impossible.” – William Arthur Ward.  You can change your life by changing the way you see things.

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